Learning Technology

As I dive into the world of technology, I feel overwhelmed and often lost. I am fortunate to have a “technology mentor”, who not only has gently urged me into this world, but has also kept me sane as I near completion of grad school. I am a product of the middle 1960’s, so the internet was born well after I was. When the internet appeared, I was busy with teenaged children, and my job did not involve computers, much less the world wide web. I could not imagine that I might ever need to keep up with this new world that I couldn’t (and still kind of don’t) understand. Well life changed, and I found myself in college at the tender age of 39. I managed to muddle through my associate’s and bachelor’s degrees, with the limited knowledge I had about the internet and Word. My son assisted me then, but admittedly I was resistant, stubborn, and convinced that I was going to bring the entire internet crashing down around me with one wrong mouse click. I was not excited about the endless learning potential that the internet provides; rather I found it confusing and could never seem to locate what I was looking for. Then I entered grad school for Mental Health Counseling. By this time, I was fairly comfortable using the internet to find research, shop, and write papers, so I thought I was good to go. You’ll be shocked to hear that I was wrong. (more…)

Rebuilding

blog spiderThis is my favorite time of year. Not just because the weather is cooling off, and the tourists are headed home, but because the spiders are back. Yes, spiders. Every year around this time I spend countless hours watching these huge spiders building their webs. The webs are so intricate and detailed, and the spiders are so methodical in their work. I have noticed some spiders move very quickly while building and some are slow and seemingly distracted. I find myself unable to look away until the webs are complete. When completed they are like a work of art. They seem completely perfect; more like a drawing than something created by a usually disliked creature. More often than not, when I get up the next morning there is no sign of the spiders or their webs.

While I am watching them I am often thinking of how these spiders have to go through this process day after day. I often wonder what humans would do if we had to rebuild our homes or selves every day. As I pondered this, I determined that the process the spiders go through is very similar to the process individuals undertake in counseling.

Usually when people enter counseling it is because something isn’t working and they need to rebuild or recreate themselves. Counseling can help begin the process of rebuilding, but the pace is entirely up to the client. Clients who are ready for change may move rapidly to a new life, but others will move slowly or not at all. Counselors must let clients work at their own speed. Just as the spiders must work diligently until the web is complete, so must our clients work until change is complete.
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Saying is NOT doing

This is my first attempt at blogging, so bear with me.

For the past three months I have been saying that I needed to start a blog. This is where it occurred to me that saying does not equal doing. It is very easy to say you are going to do something, but actually doing it is often another matter completely. I think back over the course of my life and realize that likely there were many times I have said I was going to do something, but never actually did it. Now that I am a full fledged adult (nearly 50), I understand the importance of “doing”.

When we give others our word, they expect us to follow through. I can honestly say that I have always had a problem with those who give their word, but don’t follow through. It leads to anger, disappointment, and often resentment. This is not to say that I have ALWAYS followed through, but I can say that I do try. I do not like to disappoint others, so when I tell you I am going to do something, you can rest assured that I will follow through to the best of my ability.

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